.A sex toy is an object or device that is primarily used to facilitate human sexual pleasure, such as a dildo or vibrator. Many popular sex toys are designed to resemble human genitals and may be vibrating or non-vibratingThere is no proof whatsoever that sex toys will injury or hurt your sexual sensitivity or privates. In fact you may continuously extend an eye fixed if you do not use your sex toy properly.
Showing posts with label Moral Lesson. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Moral Lesson. Show all posts
Monday, 4 January 2016
10 advantages and 10 disadvantages of using the Internet
1) Information on almost every subject imaginable.
2) Powerful search engines
3) Ability to do research from your home versus research libraries.
4) Information at various levels of study. Everything from scholarly articles to ones directed at children.
5) Message boards where people can discuss ideas on any topic. Ability to get wide range of opinions. People can find others that have a similar interest in whatever they are interested in.
Sunday, 3 January 2016
Masturbation? Drawbacks-Disadvantages-How can we get rid of Masturbation
What is Masturbation-Get Rid of Masturbation :
Masturbation is technique of sex by which male and female get sexual relaxation. A well known term for masturbation is wanking. Different scholars explain it in different ways. Some of them are agree with masturbation and discuss in detailed about its procedure, health benefits, techniques and related material, but most of scholar criticize it and agreed that this way of sexual relaxation is totally unhealthy and can cause different illness or problems that may affects individual’s sexual life/marriage life. Some researcher wrote that masturbation is good to release the stress or by doing masturbation people came to know their body awareness. On the other hand many scholars criticized it and explained its affects on individual life i.e. can cause insanity, diseases, hair growth
Benefits of Fearing the Lord
Written by Wisdom nwokocha
“The LORD confides in those who fear Him; He makes His covenant known to them.” (Psalm 25:14)The Proverbs are wise sayings that provide insight into life. We don’t determine doctrine from them, but they help us understand how life generally works. Likewise, rather than absolute promises, the Psalms poetically express emotion. They show us the hearts of those who sought God.
With that in mind, these books give abundant messages about the benefits of fearing the Lord. Allow the following lists to
Saturday, 2 January 2016
IRONY OF LIFE!
(strange but true...)
1. The lawyer hopes you get in trouble
2. The doctor hopes you get sick
3. The police hopes you become a criminal
CATEGORIES OF JOBS THAT CAN FRUSTRATE THE LIFE OF GRADUATES
The dream of every graduate is to secure a good job and live a financial stable life, but unemployment and circumstances have made many graduates to settle for low profile jobs
These low profile jobs makes life unbearable for graduates which comes with poor salary package, terrible working condition and other derogatory factors.
So quickly let’s discuss on the categories of jobs that can frustrate the life of Nigeria Graduates;The Five Careless Bridesmaids
If you have Bibles, please open to Matthew chapter 25. In this passage we find Jesus teaching about two types of people, those who are spiritually prepared and those unprepared for His coming. The story of the Ten Virgins, or if we were going to update it for today, the story of the ten bridesmaids is part of that instruction and that is the passage which we are going to specifically consider today. So let’s look
FOR COUPLES AND THOSE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED.

FOR OUR MEN:
Carry your wife to the bed when she sleeps off in the sitting room, make her feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at times, that's why women behave childish or silly at times.
You may have an argument with your wife and the next thing is that you will see her putting her bags outside the house, it doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce, she is just being childish, she
Carry your wife to the bed when she sleeps off in the sitting room, make her feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at times, that's why women behave childish or silly at times.
You may have an argument with your wife and the next thing is that you will see her putting her bags outside the house, it doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce, she is just being childish, she
Wednesday, 30 December 2015
My mum sold pure water so I could play football—Ighalo
Super Eagles Invitation
Yeah, when I was playing back in Italy and in Norway, I was watching the Super Eagles and praying that by God’s grace my turn would come to play for them. So, when the time was getting closer, I was having more experience in playing in bigger leagues and the time came and I said this is my time to take the chance, and give every opportunity to do well and have chance to be invited
MARRIED IN SCHOOL, SINGLE AT HOME
Thinking about this topic, I’ve been wondering who the focus of this post should be – girls or guys or both. In almost every tertiary institution in Nigeria, you find ‘undergraduate couples’ living as husbands and wives. You find a lot of these misguided people in virtually all schools. It’s so bad that, often times, they are duly recognized and acknowledged as couples by lodge neighbors, classmates and even leaders of various students associations. Little wonder there is such an award as “The best couple of
Tuesday, 29 December 2015
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD READ THESE 30 RULES FOR GODLY WOMEN-
1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your
husband. Its a sign of disrespect.(Prov 15v1)
2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to
your family and friends. It will bounce back at you.
You are each other's keeper.(Eph 5v12)
3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate
to your husband, you never know how your
husband will interpret them. Defensive women
don't have a happy home.(Prov 15v13)
Saturday, 26 December 2015
Thursday, 17 December 2015
Friday, 6 November 2015
6 things you should never discuss with your colleagues in the office
In order not to create problems for yourself professionally in the future, here are some things never to do with your colleagues.
1. Discussing your sex life. From experiences to escapades, it’ll land you in trouble if it gets to the wrong ears.
2. Telling your superior how you spent your weekend. Unless it’s necessary and related to work.
3. Gossiping about another colleague. It may lower your productivity at your workplace.
4. Don’t form unnecessary clicks or sideline some people your office. People are really sensitive to issues like this.
5. Revealing big secrets to another co-worker. Talking about big mistakes you made in the past with a colleague could backfire.
6. Be careful how you reply angry or frustrated colleagues, especially if you think the scenario won’t end well for you and that colleague is a loud mouth
Monday, 19 October 2015
Inspirational Sunday – 7 Signs God Is Talking And You Aren’t Listening
Have you ever had the feeling like you are praying and God just isn’t answering you? At the same time, everyone around you is telling you that God answers every prayer?
In the hustle and bustle of the day, it can be difficult to tell when God is talking to you. The thing to remember is he is always talking, and you just need to listen up.
Here are seven ways God could be reaching out to you in ways you never thought of before:
1. While serving others
Have you ever served someone, and while you were serving, you got the feeling that you should change something in your life? Has someone you served said something that had a life-changing impact in your life? This is God speaking to you. These people are not placed in your life by accident. He places them there.
Nothing brings more peace and happiness in this life than giving of your time to help someone else. God is always more willing to answer our prayers when you are willing to give a lending hand to help someone in need.
2. Studying your scriptures
There is an old saying that says, “When you want to talk to God, you pray. When he wants to talk to you, you read your scriptures.” God speaks through his written word, and nothing can enlighten you more than sitting down and cracking open the Bible. So, the next time you open your scriptures and a particular verse stands out to you, know that God is reaching out to you.
3. Acts of kindness from other people
Have you ever had a bad day, and at the moment you need it most someone approaches you to tell you are an awesome person? Or when everyone in your family is sick, and a friend brings over a huge pot of soup to share?
These are moments when people feel the need to reach out and help you. Anything that’s good must come from God, and it does. Many times people are prompted to reach out and help. God uses them to answer your prayers.
4. Feelings that come to your heart
Often times, when we pray, we expect a huge sign from God. However, most of the time, he speaks to us through the feelings in our heart. Have you ever prayed and felt this overwhelming peace? That is God letting you know he is there for you and is telling you yes to the things you are asking.
Other times, do you get an uncomfortable feeling? A feeling like maybe you shouldn’t do it? That is also God talking. He will never lead us to do anything wrong. That is him telling you no, don’t do that.
Sometimes no feeling can be an answer to our prayers. It could mean, “Just wait a little longer. You’re not ready quite yet.”
5. Tender mercies
“Tender mercies” are like little love notes God sends us to let us know he is there for us. This can be anything: You get a phone call from your mom at the moment you were thinking of her. You didn’t think your car was going to start and it all of sudden starts. These are the moments God is telling you he is there for you. Most the time, you are the only one who is benefited from them because it was exactly what you needed in the moment you needed it.
The best way to see these tender mercies is to pray to have the ability to recognize them when they happen. If you pray for your eyes to be opened to them they will be opened.
6. Thoughts that come to your mind
Sometimes thoughts can come to your mind to do something that you have never done before. In the end, it benefited you from doing it. It could be as simple as trying to solve a math problem for homework in a different way and you find the right answer. That is God speaking to us. This doesn’t mean every thought you have comes from God. However, if you are stumped and all of sudden you get an idea that could be God helping you out.
The best way to distinguish if it is God or not is to not worry about it. Always try to do what is good. God never prompts us to do something bad. If you strive to always do what is good, then you are listening to what God has to say.
7. Accepting God’s will above all else
Many times, God is giving a clear answer, and you are not willing to accept it. It could be that he is prompting you to go in a direction you never thought of before, and it is something you don’t necessarily want to do. However, putting your trust in God and his timing will always pay off in the end. He always has your back. He wants the best for your life. The first step to putting your faith in him is accepting his will above all else.
Have you ever had the feeling like you are praying and God just isn’t answering you? At the same time, everyone around you is telling you that God answers every prayer?
In the hustle and bustle of the day, it can be difficult to tell when God is talking to you. The thing to remember is he is always talking, and you just need to listen up.
Here are seven ways God could be reaching out to you in ways you never thought of before:
1. While serving others
1. While serving others
Have you ever served someone, and while you were serving, you got the feeling that you should change something in your life? Has someone you served said something that had a life-changing impact in your life? This is God speaking to you. These people are not placed in your life by accident. He places them there.
Nothing brings more peace and happiness in this life than giving of your time to help someone else. God is always more willing to answer our prayers when you are willing to give a lending hand to help someone in need.
2. Studying your scriptures
2. Studying your scriptures
There is an old saying that says, “When you want to talk to God, you pray. When he wants to talk to you, you read your scriptures.” God speaks through his written word, and nothing can enlighten you more than sitting down and cracking open the Bible. So, the next time you open your scriptures and a particular verse stands out to you, know that God is reaching out to you.
3. Acts of kindness from other people
3. Acts of kindness from other people
Have you ever had a bad day, and at the moment you need it most someone approaches you to tell you are an awesome person? Or when everyone in your family is sick, and a friend brings over a huge pot of soup to share?
These are moments when people feel the need to reach out and help you. Anything that’s good must come from God, and it does. Many times people are prompted to reach out and help. God uses them to answer your prayers.
4. Feelings that come to your heart
4. Feelings that come to your heart
Often times, when we pray, we expect a huge sign from God. However, most of the time, he speaks to us through the feelings in our heart. Have you ever prayed and felt this overwhelming peace? That is God letting you know he is there for you and is telling you yes to the things you are asking.
Other times, do you get an uncomfortable feeling? A feeling like maybe you shouldn’t do it? That is also God talking. He will never lead us to do anything wrong. That is him telling you no, don’t do that.
Sometimes no feeling can be an answer to our prayers. It could mean, “Just wait a little longer. You’re not ready quite yet.”
5. Tender mercies
5. Tender mercies
“Tender mercies” are like little love notes God sends us to let us know he is there for us. This can be anything: You get a phone call from your mom at the moment you were thinking of her. You didn’t think your car was going to start and it all of sudden starts. These are the moments God is telling you he is there for you. Most the time, you are the only one who is benefited from them because it was exactly what you needed in the moment you needed it.
The best way to see these tender mercies is to pray to have the ability to recognize them when they happen. If you pray for your eyes to be opened to them they will be opened.
6. Thoughts that come to your mind
6. Thoughts that come to your mind
Sometimes thoughts can come to your mind to do something that you have never done before. In the end, it benefited you from doing it. It could be as simple as trying to solve a math problem for homework in a different way and you find the right answer. That is God speaking to us. This doesn’t mean every thought you have comes from God. However, if you are stumped and all of sudden you get an idea that could be God helping you out.
The best way to distinguish if it is God or not is to not worry about it. Always try to do what is good. God never prompts us to do something bad. If you strive to always do what is good, then you are listening to what God has to say.
7. Accepting God’s will above all else
7. Accepting God’s will above all else
Many times, God is giving a clear answer, and you are not willing to accept it. It could be that he is prompting you to go in a direction you never thought of before, and it is something you don’t necessarily want to do. However, putting your trust in God and his timing will always pay off in the end. He always has your back. He wants the best for your life. The first step to putting your faith in him is accepting his will above all else.
For Women: 5 Dangers of Lesbianism
Numerous factors have been shown to be associated with increased risk of various health problems.
Today we present general information about some of the factors that put women at higher risk of cancer. As for lesbian health research in general, information is limited on the prevalence of particular health risk factors among lesbians. The Women’s Health Initiative (WHI) provides one useful source of data for looking at differences between lesbian and heterosexual women in the study in terms of certain health-related risk variables.
1. Religious Implication or Wrath of God
Lev. 18:22, “You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination.”1
Lev. 20:13, “If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltness is upon them”
Lev. 20:13, “If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltness is upon them”
Unlike other sins, homosexuality has a heavy judgment administered by God Himself upon those who commit it – and support it. This judgment is simple in that those who practice it are given over to their passions – which means that their hearts are allowed to be hardened by their sins.
“For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, 27 and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error,” (Rom. 1:26-27).
As a result, they can no longer see the error of what they are doing. They will not seek forgiveness. They will die in their sins. They will face God’s holy condemnation. But, that isn’t all. In addition to the judgment of being given over to their sin, those involved in it also promote it and condemn others who don’t approve of their behavior.
“…and, although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them,” (Rom. 1:32).
So, in their hearty approval of homosexuality they encourage others to be trapped in their sinfulness. They will not trust in Christ’s redemptive work on the cross. Without Jesus, they will have no forgiveness. Without forgiveness, they will have no salvation. Without salvation, there is only damnation in eternal hell. But, we don’t want this for anyone.
2. High Rate of STDs and HIV
They suffer a high rate of STDs due to the unprotected s*x that always occur in a girl to girl sexaul intercourse…they engage in a lot of fondling, intense fingering, mouth-to-v**ina s*x intercourse and mouth-to-anus s*xual intercourse [in which they suck up vaginal and an*l fluids of their partner whom they are not even sure of their s*x life…because the partner might as well be bisuexual meaning…she sleeps with both men and women…and will definitely have unprotected s*x with 4 out of 12 men because of the reluctancy in protected s*x awareness that has gone numb from the already existing unprotected s*x with her female counterparts. and lesbians never keep one partner…they get down one sensing that you are one of them and will suck up all their vaginal and an*l fluids asap…while fingering with either dirty hands or unsterilized s*x toys that must have been used by or one their numerous partners or encounters. thereby making the circulation of STDs and HIV amongst them to be on the high side
3. Overweight.
Body mass index (BMI), an indication of overweight, differed significantly between lifetime lesbians and heterosexual women in the WHI, with a greater proportion of lifetime lesbians having a BMI of more than 27 (52.3% of lifetime lesbians compared to 45.8% of heterosexual women).
4. History of Pregnancy.
Women who reported having a lesbian s*xual identity were least likely to have children (30%), and those reporting a heterosexual identity were most likely to have children (73%). Slightly more than half (58%) of those reporting any lesbian same-s*x orientation (identity, behavior, or desire) indicated that they had biological children. Thus, although lesbians are less likely to report having biological children than are heterosexual women, there are still substantial numbers of lesbians who are parents, particularly if these figures include adoptive or other nonbiological parents. In the WHI sample, lesbians were much less likely to have ever been pregnant than were heterosexual women. These differences were particularly pronounced for lifetime lesbians of whom 34.1% had previously been pregnant, compared to 61.2% of the mature lesbians and 89.9% of the heterosexual women.
5. The Health Impacts of Stress
Lesbians, similar to other stigmatized individuals, likely experience stress related to the difficulties of living in a homophobic society. Stress may result from the burden of keeping one’s lesbian identity secret from family or coworkers, being excluded by physicians from making health care decisions for a gravely ill lesbian partner or, among many other factors, being the target of violence or other hate crimes. Hostility and isolation are very potent forms of stress that contribute to allostatic load by leading to elevated levels of the stress hormones (McEwen, 1998; Powch and Houston, 1996).
Although the precise health effects of stress on lesbians have not yet been examined systematically, some hypotheses can be made about their possible health risk based on information about both the stress effects of discrimination on other groups and the stress effects of socioeconomic status.9 It can be hypothesized that lesbians who experience such forms of psychosocial stress sustain negative effects similar to those of other groups that experience discrimination.
It can also be hypothesized that stress effects may be greatest for lesbians who are subject to multiple forms of discrimination.
Source: Ladun Liadi’s Blog
REASON WHY WE SHOULD SERVE GOD
The people in Malachi’s day had grown indifferent to
God’s great love. The theme of Malachi is, “I have loved you,” says the
Lord. But the callused response of the people was, “How have You loved
us?” (1:2). The prophet seeks to show them that the problem was not on
God’s part. It never is. The problem was their sinfully selfish,
temporal perspective. They needed to see things from God’s eternal
perspective and serve Him by faith.
Behind their wrong attitude was the age-old subject
that we covered in 2:17: Why do the wicked prosper and the godly suffer?
You may wonder, Why bring it up again so soon? The answer is, this
problem doesn’t get put to rest once and for all. It keeps creeping back
into our thinking. God knows that we wrestle with it, and so He
graciously addresses the subject repeatedly, so that we will maintain
His perspective when we are tempted to think that it is vain to serve
Him. The prophet shows us:
We should serve God because He notices and cares deeply for all who serve Him.
There are two groups in our text. Group A (3:13-15)
is the group to Avoid. This group grumbled against God, complaining that
there is no reward for serving Him; you may as well be an arrogant,
wicked person who tests God and escapes. Group B (3:16-18) is the group
to Be in. These people feared God and esteemed His name. They encouraged
one another to continue serving God in spite of the seeming prosperity
of the wicked and suffering of the righteous. God takes special notice
of them and promises that He will spare them in the day of judgment
because they are His special treasure.
1. Group A: Avoid being among those who complain about serving God (3:13-15).
This group spoke arrogantly or harshly against the
Lord, but when the prophet confronts them, they ask, “What have we
spoken against You?” As verses 14-15 show, they weren’t directly shaking
their fists at God. Rather, they were complaining to one another, but
God was eavesdropping! He always does, of course! He notices all that
we think or say. But these people were not God-oriented, and so they
spoke brazenly to one another, voicing their common complaints as if God
were deaf or non-existent.
Their complaint was, “It is vain to serve God; and
what profit is it that we have kept His charge, and that we have walked
in mourning before the Lord of hosts?” (3:14). They went even farther,
probably in sarcastic mockery. They called the arrogant blessed, and
said that wicked people are not only built up, but also they test God
and escape (3:15). There are four characteristics of this group to
avoid:
A. These people were sitting in judgment on God, rather than submitting to His dealings with them.
Whenever we grumble about our circumstances or the
wrong treatment that we have received, we are really elevating ourselves
above God. We are saying, in effect, “God, I could run this universe
better than You are running it! I’m just trying to serve You, and all I
get is unfair treatment and trouble. But the guy who arrogantly defies
You is living a happy life. I’d fix this problem if I were in charge!”
What arrogance, to think that somehow I’d do a better job of running the
universe than the Lord of hosts!
One of the most prevalent sins of the Israelites in
the wilderness was their spirit of grumbling and complaining against
God. They rather would have returned to slavery in Egypt than to trust
God and endure hardship in the wilderness! He had delivered them from
bondage in a dramatic and miraculous way through the Red Sea. From
there, they went three days into the wilderness, found no water, and
began to grumble (Exod. 15:22-27).
Later they grumbled about the boring manna that God faithfully supplied every day, and so the Lord graciously provided quail (Numbers 11).
They grumbled at the report of the spies about the giants in the land,
and talked about appointing a leader to return to Egypt (Numbers 14).
God was displeased with their grumbling. That entire generation, except
for Joshua and Caleb, who trusted God, died in the wilderness (Num. 14:26-38).
Whenever we grumble about our circumstances, we are
impugning the character of God and exalting ourselves above Him. We’re
saying, “God doesn’t really love us, or He wouldn’t let us be in this
difficult place.” And, we’re saying, “I know better than God what is
good for me.” John Calvin observes, “But in the service of God the chief
thing is this— that men deny themselves and give themselves up to be
ruled by God, and never raise a clamor when he humbles them” (Calvin’s Commentaries [Baker reprint], on Malachi 3:13,
pp. 595-596). As Paul exhorts us from his prison cell, “Do all things
without grumbling or disputing; that you may prove yourselves to be
blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach in the midst of a
crooked and perverse generation, among whom you appear as lights in the
world” (Phil. 2:15).
B. These people had a self-centered attitude.
They ask, “What profit is it that we have kept His
charge …?” (3:14). What’s in it for us? The Hebrew word translated
“profit” was a technical term for a weaver cutting a piece of cloth free
from the loom. The idea here is that these people expected their “cut”
or percentage, much as a gangster would demand his cut for his dirty
work (Walter Kaiser, Malachi, God’s Unchanging Love [Baker], p. 98). They were grumbling that God hadn’t given them their fair share.
Be careful here! The flesh is inclined to self-pity,
self-focus, and self-centeredness, and the world feeds this. If there’s
nothing in it for you, why do it? If the church isn’t meeting your
needs, bail out. You deserve some happiness. You can’t worry about the
needs of others! God understands. Your needs come first!
We need to be careful about how we present the
gospel. If we approach it as, “Come to Jesus and He will meet all your
needs,” we aren’t giving the full picture. It’s true, of course, that
Jesus satisfies the deepest longings of every heart that trusts in Him.
But He is not Aladdin’s Genie, waiting to grant our every wish. While
following Christ brings us deep and lasting joy, the path to that joy is
daily self-denial and the cross (Luke 9:23-24), which are not immediately pleasant experiences!
I always chuckle when I read about the time Peter
said to Jesus, “Behold, we have left everything and followed You.” Jesus
affirmed that whatever they had given up to follow Him, they would
receive a hundred times as much in this present age. Then, while I’m
sure the disciples were nodding in approval, Jesus added almost
offhandedly, “along with persecutions; and in the age to come, eternal
life” (Mark 10:28-30).
What’s in it for you, if you serve the Lord? He
gives abundant blessings, both in this life and in eternity. But don’t
forget the persecutions! “All who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus
will be persecuted” (2 Tim. 3:12). Self-centered people don’t last long in serving God.
C. These people had lost the motivation for holy living.
They asked, “What profit is it that … we have walked
in mourning before the Lord of hosts?” (3:14). Outwardly, they went
through the motions of fasting and humbling themselves before God. But
they were not doing these things out of a heart of love and devotion for
God. Inwardly they were thinking, “This religion stuff is a drag! We
want some fun out of life!”
Motivation is everything when it comes to obeying
and serving God. I read about an elderly Christian lady who was a
shut-in. She had two daughters, both Christians, who came by to clean
and help out. Both made everything shine, but the first daughter left
the impression that her task was an awful burden. The second daughter
was cheery and made her mother feel loved. Both daughters did the same
task, but the first did it out of duty alone. The second did it out of
love for her mother. Her motive made all the difference.
Jesus rebuked the church at Ephesus. They were doing
many good things. They had persevered and endured for Christ’s sake.
But they had left their first love for Him (Rev. 2:1-4).
When Jesus restored Peter to service after his fall, He asked three
times, “Do you love Me?” With that as a foundation, He said, “Tend My
sheep” (John 21:15-17).
Paul said, “… the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in
the Son of God, who loved me, and delivered Himself up for me” (Gal. 2:20). Love for the Lord Jesus, who gave Himself on the cross for me, should be the motive behind everything that I do for Him.
So this group to avoid was sitting in judgment on
God, they had a self-centered attitude, and they had lost the motivation
of love as the basis for holy living and service.
D. These people had focused on the seeming prosperity of the wicked, but had lost the eternal perspective.
While saying that it is vain to serve God, they were
calling the arrogant blessed. From all that they could see, there was
no reward for following God, and there were many rewards for defying God
and seeking your own prosperity.
Whenever we start thinking that way, we have lost
God’s eternal perspective and adopted the world’s temporal perspective.
Asaph wrote about this in Psalm 73.
He contrasted the prosperity of the wicked with his own trials and
concluded that he was following God in vain. This was troublesome in his
sight until he went into the sanctuary of God. There he
considered the end of the wicked and the reward of the righteous. I
encourage you to meditate on that Psalm whenever you’re tempted in this
manner.
Also, read Paul’s great resurrection chapter, 1 Corinthians 15.
He states (15:19), “If we have hoped in Christ in this life only, we
are of all men most to be pitied.” Why serve Christ if this life is all
there is? Rather, “eat and drink, for tomorrow we die” (15:32). But, if
Christ is risen and if we will be raised from the dead also, Paul’s
conclusion is, “Be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of
the Lord, knowing that your toil is not in vain in the Lord” (15:58).
So avoid Group A. But there’s a second group:
2. Group B: God notices and cares for those who fear and serve Him in spite of hardships (3:16-18).
This is the group to Be in! They were probably the
minority group, numbers-wise. But God always has a faithful remnant that
serves Him in spite of many difficulties. Note that Group B, those who
serve God, are called righteous, whereas Group A are called wicked
(3:18). That is not to say that serving God earns the label of
“righteous.” We can do nothing to commend ourselves to God. Our
righteousness is in the Lord Jesus Christ, whose righteousness is
imputed to us as a gift of God’s grace through faith (Rom. 3:21-26).
But serving God is a distinguishing mark of the righteous person,
whereas not serving God marks the wicked, who live for themselves. There
are two, and only two, groups here. Either you have not trusted in
Christ and you live for yourself, or you have been justified by faith in
Christ and now you live to serve Him. Make sure that you’re in Group B,
not in Group A! Three characteristics mark Group B:
A. These people fear God and esteem His name above the opinions of others.
Twice verse 16 emphasizes that these people feared
God, and it further adds that they esteemed His name. “Esteem” (KJV =
“thought upon”) means to meditate, to regard, and thus to set value on
something. Isaiah (13:17) uses the word to describe the Medes, who “will
not value silver” when they invade Babylon. In other words, they would
not be bought off with silver, because they did not value it above
victory. (See also, Isa. 53:3.)
In our text, this group valued the Lord and His
character (“name”) above the majority opinion. They didn’t go with the
prevailing flow of their day, because they looked to God in His majesty,
and they feared Him and valued Him above everything else.
In my opinion, the Christian world today needs a
revived emphasis on the proper fear of God. We rightly emphasize God’s
love, because “God is love” (1 John 4:8). But we are out of balance if we emphasize God’s love to the neglect of the fear that is due to His holy name.
I wish that many of God’s people today, who view God
as their Good Buddy, would read John Bunyan’s excellent “Treatise on
the Fear of God” (The Works of John Bunyan [Baker], 1:437-491).
He writes, “When God comes to bring a soul news of mercy and salvation,
even that visit, that presence of God, is fearful” (p. 438). In God’s
presence, he says, “even our best things, our comeliness, our sanctity
and righteousness, all do immediately turn to corruption and polluted
rags” (p. 439). The proper fear of God causes us to hate evil and turn
from it (Prov. 3:7; 8:13; 16:6).
Too many pastors today fear what people think of them more than they
fear what God thinks of them! Fearing God gives us the courage to
confront sin, even if people don’t like us for doing so.
B. These people encourage one another in the face of surrounding evil.
“Then those who feared the Lord spoke to one
another” (3:16). “Then” refers to verse 15. when the wicked called the
arrogant blessed. Group B had to counter the evil talk of Group A. They
had to be as bold for God as Group A was bold for evil. They did it by
getting together and talking. We are not told specifically what they
said, but they probably encouraged one another by saying, “Don’t listen
to these scoffers. Don’t give up serving the Lord! He will reward all
that serve Him and He will judge the wicked scoffers.”
The point is, we need fellowship with like-minded
believers in order to stand firm against the wrong ideas that come at us
from the world, the flesh, and the devil. If all you do is attend
church and leave, but you don’t fellowship with other Christians during
the week, you will struggle to maintain a godly perspective in the face
of the evil around us. That’s why Hebrews 10:24-25
commands us to think about how to stimulate one another to love and
good deeds, and not to forsake assembling together, but to encourage
“one another, and all the more as you see the day drawing near.”
Group B fears God and encourages one another. Finally,
C. These people are especially noticed and cared for by God.
“The Lord gave attention and heard it, and a book of
remembrance was written before Him…” (3:16). The Hebrew word translated
“gave attention” means to prick up the ears, as an animal does when it
hears something. The word “heard” means to bend over so as not to miss a
word. The picture is that of a parent, eavesdropping on the
conversation between his children (Charles Simeon, Expository Outlines on the Whole Bible
[Zondervan], 10:620-621). The book of remembrance probably refers to
the record book that Persian kings kept with the names and favorable
deeds of those who had helped the king (Esther 6:1-2).
God hears and remembers everything said by everyone
at all times, of course. But these human pictures applied to God remind
us that He is not forgetful of His children when they take a stand for
Him or when they pay a price to serve Him (Heb. 6:10).
God promises that they will be His on the day that
He prepares His own possession, or treasure. He will spare them when He
judges the earth, as a man spares his own son who serves him. So God is
assuring His people that He hears and takes notice of that which the
world overlooks or despises. The world notices the powerful, rich, and
famous. God notices those who fear Him and serve Him out of love. They
are His special treasure. And so we should not despair at the seeming
prosperity of the wicked or at our own trials. When God judges the
earth, the line between the righteous and the wicked, between the one
who serves God and the one who does not, will be clear (3:18).
Conclusion
Years ago, an elderly missionary couple who had
served for years in Africa, was returning to New York City to retire.
They were feeling discouraged, defeated, and afraid. Their health was
broken and they had no retirement pension. When they got to the wharf to
board the ship, they discovered that they were booked on the same boat
as President Theodore Roosevelt, who was returning from a big game hunt.
No one paid any attention to this old couple, but they watched the
fanfare as the President arrived. A band was playing and the crowd was
waving and straining for a glimpse of the great man.
As the ship crossed the Atlantic, the old man grew
more and more depressed. He said to his wife, “Something is wrong. Why
should we have given our lives in faithful service for God in Africa all
these years, and yet no one cares for us? This man comes back from a
hunting expedition, and everyone throngs to see him. It doesn’t seem
fair!” His wife tried to comfort him, but he couldn’t shake his
depression.
As the boat docked in America, more bands were
playing and more crowds had turned out to greet the President. Many
dignitaries were there, and the papers carried the story on the front
page. But no one noticed the missionaries. They slipped off the boat and
went to hunt for a cheap apartment and for jobs.
That night, the man’s spirit broke. He felt that God
had abandoned them. He complained to his wife, “We don’t have anyone to
help us and no where to go. Why hasn’t God met our needs?” His wife
wisely replied, “Why don’t you go in the bedroom and talk to the Lord
about the whole thing?”
Some time later, he came out of the bedroom, but his
face was different. He was happy now. His wife asked what happened. He
said, “I went in and told the Lord the whole thing. I told Him that it’s
not fair. I told Him how I was bitter because the President received
this tremendous homecoming, but no one met us as we returned home. And
you know, as I finished, it seemed as
though the Lord put His hand on my shoulder and said simply, ‘My child,
you’re not home yet.’” Why serve God? Because He notices and cares for
all who serve Him!
Tuesday, 13 October 2015
22 Benefits of Fearing God
- Receive divine instruction concerning the choices they should make (Ps 25:12).
- Are prosperous in the most important ways (Ps 25:13; 112:3).
- Experience God’s goodness (Ps 31:19).
- Are special objects of God’s protection (Ps 31:20).
- Have children to whom God shows compassion (Ps 103:11-18).
- Have descendants who will be great on the earth in the most important ways (Ps 112:2).
- Are motivated to be gracious and generous (Ps 112:4-5).
- Will be confident, courageous people (Ps 112:6-8; Prov 14:26).
- Will experience contentment (Ps 112:5-6, 9; Prov 19:23).
- Will be praying people whose prayers will be heard (Ps 145:19).
- Are blessed with wisdom (Prov 1:7; 9:10).
- Are teachable and peaceful (Prov 8:13; 14:26; 15:33; Acts 9:31).
- Are characterized by integrity and faithfulness (Job 2:3).
- Are considerate and kind (Ps 112:4-5).
- Are noted for constructive speech (Mal 3:16).
- Are patient, hopeful, and genuine (Ps 147:11).
- Persevere in doing what is right (Ps 112:3, 5; 2 Cor 7:1).
- Work hard, but are not so committed to work that they do not have time for enjoyment (Ps 128:3).
- Accept responsibility for their own families and yet are not overly responsible (Ps 128:3).
- Are devoted to their families and find them to be a source of great satisfaction (Ps 128:1-4).
- Delight in worshipping God (Rev 14:7).
- Love the Scripture and order their lives according to God’s commands (Ps 112:1; Eccl 12:13).
Truly, “How blessed is the man who fears the LORD” (Ps 112:1)!
Source - counselingoneanother.com
Saturday, 10 October 2015
Cultivating the Fear of the Lord Lifestyle
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding (Proverbs 9:10, NKJ)
Those of us who have been called to the ministry often find ourselves vulnerable to the enemy due to diverse factors. One such factor is that we often become too busy for the Lord; travelling, ministering, preparing sermons and doing a lot to “save the lost world.” Sometimes we find ourselves in unfamiliar places with unfamiliar people and unfamiliar cultures. The enemy can easily creep in when we are fatigued and lonely hence the need to cultivate the fear of the Lord lifestyle both in private and in public.
Our ministries should spring out of our relationship with the Lord. God’s call to come precedes the call to go. (Mark 3:14) Our ministry to others should therefore be secondary after ministering to the Lord and spending time with Him. God delights in relating with us and having constant fellowship with us.
Since He is a holy God, our fellowship with Him is most enriching when we are in a right relationship with Him. Care should however be taken lest we think that it is our good deeds or hard labor that gets us approval with God. By developing the fear of the Lord lifestyle we are able to gain strength from Him. This gives us courage and confidence as we minister to others. Paul Bucknell summarizes this and observes:
The fear of the Lord keeps us humble and listening. We dread His displeasure and the fear of the consequences of disobeying Him. When we fear God, we know He can and will carry out this chastisement. This keeps us alert to what He wants and how He wants it done. Without regularly meeting God, however, this fear can wear off. We can begin to forget what we learned and had agreed upon. When this occurs, we begin to make confident decisions based more on our impulses than what is right and good. Those bad decisions will produce horrible consequences in our lives (Biblical Foundations for Freedom; http://www.foundationsforfreedom.net)
The writer of Psalms observes, “The secret of the Lord is with those who fear Him, And He will show them His covenant.” (Psalms 25:14) Besides enriching our spiritual walk with God and giving us confidence as we serve Him, the fear of the Lord makes us know the secrets of the Lord. King Solomon also observes Proverbs 22:4 that the fear of the Lord brings wealth, honor and life. The gateway to success, honor and fullness of life is therefore the fear of the Lord. This applies both to our personal lives as well as to the ministries that God has called us to.
When God commissioned Joshua to take over from Moses and lead the Israelites to the promised land, He made it clear that it was only in everyone obeying all the law that he would be successful wherever he went. (Joshua 1:7) God-given success, honor and prosperity is therefore dependent on keeping God’s commands in reverence to Him. Any other success brought about by our charismatic gifts and abilities is not only destructive but short-lived.
The fear of the Lord lifestyle is not palpable hence the need to be cultivated. We are born sinners and prone to sin hence the need to be intentional about this kind of lifestyle. Since no person is immune to sin we have to work out our salvation “with fear and trembling.” (Phil. 2:12) The good news is that we don’t have to do this in our own strength because, “It is God who works in us both to will and to do His good pleasure.” (Phil. 2:13) Our responsibility is therefore to fully surrender to the work of the Holy Spirit on daily basis. As we live a life of yielding daily to God by the Holy Spirit, our weaknesses are overshadowed by God’s power within us. We however have a responsibility hence the use of words “work out” which implies some effort on our part.
Cultivating a lifestyle of fearing the Lord involves at least three things. It involves intimacy with God, spiritual disciplines and making ourselves accountable.
Intimacy with God.
As mentioned at the beginning of this article, God first calls us to Himself and then commissions us to do ministry. Jesus ordained the twelve apostles, “that they should be with Him, and that He might send them forth to preach.” (Mark 3:14) Although God is concerned about the lost world (Mark 6:34) and the scarcity of laborers (Luke 10:2), He never intended the ministry to take His place.
The seduction of sin has greater impact on us when we neglect our intimacy with God. It is therefore imperative that we make spending time with God and developing intimacy with Him our first priority. This is a challenge to many who are so passionate about “saving the world” yet hardly have a rich ministry to the Lord. The tendency is to go to God to ask for help to do ministry. We also need to go to Him to fellowship with Him and to enjoy His presence.
Sin and carelessness can easily mess up our intimacy with God. The scriptures admonish us not to take the grace of God in vain. (2 Corinthians 6:1) Since God is holy, sin separates us from enjoying the benefits of a close intimacy with Him. (Isaiah 59:1-2) It is therefore a two way process. Our love for God and the desire to be intimate with Him motivates to develop a lifestyle of reverence and worship. Secondly, as we worship and reverence Him, we are changed into His likeness. The more we get close to God the more we realize how wretched we are and our need for continuous cleansing. (Isaiah 6:1-8)
Spiritual Disciplines
Spiritual disciplines are practices and spiritual habits that we intentionally engage in consistently in order to maintain a close walk with God and vibrancy in our Christian service. They involve life choices that a person makes for the purpose of entering into deeper awareness and relationship with God for personal growth and service to others. They include but are not limited to disciplined prayer life, fasting, study of God’s Word and quiet moments of listening to God.
These disciplines not only help us draw inner strength from the Lord for Christian service, but also help us in maintaining our intimacy with God. As we engage in these disciplines, our spirits are renewed, our spiritual skills sharpened and our spiritual discernment improved. Spiritual disciplines therefore help us receive God’s grace in our lives, one of which is to maintain the fear of the Lord lifestyle.
Rather than being legalistic, as perceived by some, spiritual disciplines could be a source of spiritual liberty as well illustrated by Donald Whitney in his book; Spiritual Disciplines for the Christian Life.(Nav. Press, 1997) In the scriptures we find Jesus withdrawing from the crowds to lonely places for moments of prayer and fasting. (Luke 5:16)
Making Ourselves Accountable
The terms “accountability” and “transparency” have become synonymous with democracy and development. Those of us who are from Africa or are familiar with African politics are well aware of the dangers of the lack of the same. Needless to say that accountability is essential for any society to function properly.
Similarly, one discipline that we need to develop in order to cultivate a fear of the Lord lifestyle is that of making ourselves accountable to mentors and colleagues. This involves willingly opening ourselves to others and sharing personal and sensitive information with such. In doing so we allow them to speak to our lives, pray with us and correct us. (Proverbs 12:1) Such people are not there to police us but are a support system in our walk with God and service. They are there to “stir us to love and to good deeds.” (Hebrews 10:24)
Dr. Richard J. Krejcir has written a detailed article on this topic worthy reading, Understanding and Developing Christian Accountability. Together with giving a strong biblical support for this discipline, he cites prevention of burn out and stress as two benefits of accountability. The most important benefit of making ourselves accountable however is that we are kept in check lest we error or lose our intimacy with God.
Since this topic is very wide and draws mixed reactions from Christians, I have chosen to deal with it only as a Christian discipline critical to maintaining the fear of the Lord lifestyle. In the most vulnerable moments of our lives when we are fatigued, lonely and alone (2 Samuel 11), creating accountability groups to “keep an eye on us” becomes vital in our Christian walk.
Conclusion
To be on the cutting edge of our callings and ministries, we need to intentionally cultivate a lifestyle of fearing the Lord. This does not mean being afraid of the Lord but rather reverencing Him for who He is. Our love for God and desire to please Him should be the motivation for us to maintain this lifestyle.
Since we are human beings full of weaknesses and vulnerable to sin, developing spiritual disciplines including prayer and fasting, study and meditation of God’s Word, and making ourselves accountable could greatly enhance this lifestyle. Above everything else, developing an intimate relationship with God will change us into who He is. In His presence we will be always conscious of His holiness and our weaknesses. Only then can we maintain a cry like that of Paul, “Who shall deliver me from this body of death.” (Romans 7:24) It is when we cultivate this life of reverence to God that we can confess with Isaiah:
“Woe to me!” I cried. “I am ruined! For I am a man of unclean lips, and I live among a people of unclean lips, and my eyes have seen the King, the LORD Almighty.” (Isaiah 6:5-NIV)
How to Enjoy Being Single As a Teen Girl
How to Enjoy Being Single As a Teen Girl
It happens to the best of us. One day, you look around the halls at school, and all you can see is couples. Holding hands, smooching, and looking so... happy. All of a sudden, you realize that (gasp!) you're single! And it can feel pretty bad. You can stop that bad feeling in its tracks and enjoy being single as a teen girl. Read on after the jump to learn more
Steps
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1Realize that not everyone is dating. The next time you go to one of your classes, look around. Look at every one of the girls in your class, and try to think whether she is dating or not. (If you don't know, assume she isn't.) Chances are, you'll find that not everyone has a boyfriend. However, if you find that every girl you looked at for sure has a boyfriend, do not be discouraged. There are probably plenty of other girls in your school who are not dating.
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2Recognize the benefits. Think about it. Your friends who are taken can't go to a party and flirt with that hot new guy. They can't go out as often. They often feel they can't go out dressed as sexy, for fear guys will "ogle" them. Meanwhile, you can go out whenever (you don't have to stay in because "Chad said he'd call me sometime between 4 and 10"), you can dress up as hot as you want, and you can flirt shamelessly.
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3Busy yourself. If you find that your old Friday night gal pals are all out with their "guy pals", please resist the urge to sit inside watching The Notebook and eating a tub of Häagen-Dazs! Go online and look up a facial mask recipe. Do your homework. Paint your nails. Watch a brand new thriller movie. Read a book. Catch up on some beauty sleep. Have fun on wikiHow. These are just some of the things you could be doing (which your taken friends will not be doing!).
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4Don't become a third wheel. This is crucial. It's extremely awkward to be the only one not cuddled up in a booth at Boston Pizza, or trying to hear the movie over the slurpy (ew!) sounds of couples making out. If some of your friends invite you out, and you realize that you'll be the odd one out, invite another single friend (or call your crush!) or just don't go. If you choose not to go, refer to step number three.
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5Explore. You're young. You're single. Don't sit around all day moping: do something about it! Scope out some new cuties, or call that summer fling. If your town has the same old guys, you're crushing on someone who is unattainable like a teacher or someone's math teacher (shocking!), or you simply haven't had any summer flings or just don't like anyone at the moment, don't worry! Maybe your friend's boyfriend's cousin would like to meet up sometime. Maybe that foreign exchange student isn't so weird after all. Maybe you've begun to find the guy next door a lot more attractive than the lifeguard at the pool. It doesn't matter. You've got your whole life ahead of you.
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6Don't be desperate. Please, please, please don't run around throwing yourself at every boy you see. You don't have to dress a certain way (put down the tube top and micro-mini), do your hair or makeup a certain way, or act a certain way to get a guy. It may sound totally like something you have heard a hundred times before , but be yourself, and you will find somebody who likes you for who you are. It may not be this week, this month, this year, or even during high school. But you will find someone.
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7Don't worry, be happy. In the end, your single friends still love you (a girls night out with the fellow single chicks is a good thing), your taken friends still love you (they can talk to you about guy woes without hearing "oh yeah? Well Brandon said this in our last fight..."), your family still loves you, and somewhere, a future partner is waiting to love you. For now, hold your head up high, smile, love (and be loved), and live.
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8Do the stuff you really want to do! One of the benefits of being single is you now have more spare time to do the stuff you really want to do! Spoil yourself, donate to charity, try a new sport, flirt a little, read and write stories, spend time with your friends, call an old friend, make a website, do homework, chat online, etc.
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9Write a contract. Promise yourself things that you'll do when you start dating such as: clear your schedule from time to time to do the things you want to do, make time for schoolwork, balance your life, etc.
Tips
- Just be yourself. Don't change who you are for anybody!
- Being in a relationship doesn't automatically mean you're happy, perfect, and or a real cool girl. You can be single while simultaneously being the happy, perfect, and downright cool person you are. Just try to love yourself. Treat yourself like a princess.
- Have a unique style. You don't need to buy stuff from those fancy brands to look amazing. Buy cute dress and never go for high price dresses cause they are not always the best. being stylish helps you to be confident and also have a better feeling about yourself.
- Don't give a damn to the people who criticize you by saying that you aren't beautiful or cute.
- Enjoy your single life.
- Treat your self like a princess
- Don't be afraid to go for your dreams being single makes you more free to dare dreams
Warnings
- Don't change yourself for a boy. Ever. It's not worth it.
- Don't ignore your friends just because they have boyfriends. Just like you can't help having feelings for your crush, they couldn't help it that their feelings for their crushes were returned. Don't hold it against them. Just be happy for them. You'd want them to be happy for you.
- If your crush goes out somewhere with another girl and then tells you about it, don't mope. Don't be sad or not answer. Ask him how it was, or what they did and give him a smiley face or a wink, to show him you really don't care. If he sees you have a life, then you will have his approval. However, it is a huge turn off to see you get angry with something so little as him going out with a girl pal.
- Don't settle for a boy not worthy of your time. If he smokes, drinks, does drugs, or harms you in any way, get out. Fast.

